Shaking Hands"….

Shaking Hands"…. as a friend with her man of the woman you just slept with

Man why?..... Listen, I often get together with guys maybe once or twice a month for a big sports gathering and watch a little football have a couple of drinks and talk a little trash. Until a particular Sunday afternoon our significant others decided to join us because it was my Sam's friends birthday. However, the conversation goes from its highest point of laughing…and joking to like going to into a funeral home for a wake to see grandma'.

What's funny is I never knew my home girl Tasha had a man, so as she began to walk around the room introducing this dude who stood 6'6" with back like Warren Sapp and a neck like Mike Tyson. I couldn't understand it everyone knew what was going on accept me and the new guy. As I look a crossed the room I began to notice Sam sweat horribly, Reg whispered to me ....man you know Sam has been hittin that! I just shook my head as I saw them shake hands, hoping that Sam didn't break his cool. Because this man's waist line was where Sam's head was. It wouldn't be to pretty if a fight broke out. I mean this was some real life best man movie crap!So here's the reality of things fella's you can never have better game than a woman. And the woman you think you are spitting game at really chooses you, you can talk until you are blue in the face. A woman knows from the time you introduce yourself to her what type of person you are going to be in her life.

The sad part is men are to dumb to realize what role they play. Here is a woman who played a so called player into thinking he's top dog when all the time she has the ultimate prize waiting and maturing like fine wine. Now this sister went around a room having this brutha shake hands everyone plus the dud she has been sleeping with, and look at the guy she had been sleeping with i.e.(Sam) right in the eye an smile like..."you better not mess this up" now shake his hand and move out the way- all with her eyes. Now this dude is hurt and vow's never to give his heart to no woman. You see, many times we have to take a chance on love. Every relationship you form and every person you decide to bring into your life must first be trusted and then love can be birthed from that. But if you decide to not trust a person or always try to protect yourself from getting hurt, then you will reap the same thing you are giving.When you guard yourself from getting hurt, you also guard yourself from the chance of being loved.

You can't just complain about the lack of love you have without sowing love. If you don't sow love, then you will not reap love. What Sam sowed was a game full of play… there was no commitment.Note: When you chose to lay down with someone keep in mind that you laying down "ALL" your rights for whatever outcome, waiting in the future so be carful who Shake hands with.


J..Ivan